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lostinchicago1126
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Registered: 09-30-2008 Location:
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posted on 09-30-2008 at 20:51 |
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HELP! MY GF MIGHT BREAK UP WITH ME IF WE DON'T HAVE SEX! I NEED A FRIEND!!!!
I have been dating a girl for 11 months...her past bf had sex with her...We have not...at all. She wants to soooooo badly...and so do I, but I believe in waiting for many reasons including risk of pregnancy, God, and other typical reasons. We've fooled around, but I hate that...and feel bad at the end...
I supposed I've provoked her to a point where she is now considering breaking up with me if we don't have sex.
Our relationship is very healthy...we have so much love for each other...I never knew someone could love a girl as much as I love her...and her love for me is immeasurable as well.
I am soooo scared and so alone...What should I do? It's all black and white here...Obviously I've here the "she's not worth it if that's all she wants you for." But it's not...she's waited so long and sacrificed so much and just claims she can't take it any more.
Please...I need answers...a friend...an opinion...anything. I am so scared to lose her.
pray for me.
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RedRocket
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Registered: 01-17-2009 Location:
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posted on 01-17-2009 at 04:30 |
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Man,
You Gayer Than Gold Dust
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MasonBurkhalter
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Registered: 08-20-2009 Location:
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posted on 08-20-2009 at 15:43 |
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RELAX!
Ok man I hear where you are coming from. Take a deep breath. First and foremost you shouldn't feel guilty or bad for fooling around or having sex before marriage. If that is what you value that is fine but honestly it isn't worth mind f*cking yourself over. If you love her enough and feel compelled to do it than just DO IT. If your beliefs are firm and you won't break them the DON'T DO IT. Its that simple. You sound really young. Honestly you will have a lot of time to figure things out in that department. Do what you feel is right and don't let anyone pursuade you to do anything that you are not prepared or willing to do. What you said in your post is true if she isn't willing to respect how you feel on the matter than she isn't right for you. It seems to me like this might be your first long term relationship. Is it? If so buddy I can tell you right now that when you are young its really easy to feel like your in love when you really aren't. Best advice I can give is to take a look at your situation and act in the best way you feel necessary. Just don't flip out because some girl wants to have sex or she'll dump you. Thats stupid. Why don't you date a girl with the same values that you have?
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Parthena
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Registered: 07-07-2007 Location: Greece
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posted on 11-10-2009 at 09:12 |
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Just say NO
Maybe wait and if she asks again, sit her down, look her in the eyes and ask her straight out:
"Why do you want to have sex?"
Based on her reasons, you can go from there.
Tip: If she wants to show you she loves you, keep in mind that can work both ways; you can show her the same love by respecting her body and refusing to defile her.
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