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posted on 07-17-2005 at 18:55 |
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When should you tell a guy you're a virgin?
When should you let him know?
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The Virgin Nurse
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posted on 08-12-2005 at 22:07 |
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ASP!!!
DON'T WAIT! TELL HIM NOW!
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lesbianpurity
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posted on 08-30-2005 at 08:42 |
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some guys love virgins, tell him! it might go better then you think ^_^
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Charizma
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posted on 09-27-2006 at 15:54 |
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Early
Tell him as early as possible. This is a way for you to set boundaries in your relationship. You never want to put yourself in a compromising position where he expects more than you are willing to give. Besides, you should be proud of your virginity. Plenty of women and men wish they had saved themselves, and these same people often testify of the emotional trauma that can result from intimacy with the wrong person. So be strong girl, and lay it on the line! 
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dreamangel
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posted on 09-30-2006 at 00:02 |
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Wait to tell
I don't think it's anyone's business to know you're a virgin unless you plan to get serious with the guy. If you're just going out for coffee with someone, why should they have to know?? It would probably freak them out and if you're waiting for marriage, the guy automatically assumes you're some weirdo with marriage plans....
Plus, telling guys right away will turn most guys off and you'll find yourself getting ignored and rejected over and over again...trust me, I've been there and you don't need that. I'm a model and fairly attractive and I plan to wait until I'm married...unfortunately my looks attract 'fling' type guys who all want to sleep with me immediatly. They are shocked when they know I'm waiting and I never hear from them again....
It's very easy to figure out which guys are only looking for one thing. Go out with a guy a few times and if you think he's just anxious for sex, reject him first...but its none of his business to know you were a virgin. Just ignore him first. Anyway, if you date a guy for a while and refuse to go home with him after the first couple of dates, he may clue in and dump you as well....but I still don't reccomend you tell him your a virgin (again, none of his business)
If you find someone who is really serious about you and interested in a long- term relationship, then date them for awhile and get them somewhat attached to you. Make sure they are really interested in you (in more than just sex) then when you've gotten to a point, where you're really comfortable and trust the person, then tell them you're a virgin...trust me, this will be much more sucessful then blurting it out to every random guy you meet, scaring the crap out of them, and continually getting rejected.
Most guys don't want the responsibility of being a girls first especially ones who are just into casual dating. You have to make the guy 'fall for you' first. And like I said, if you have any suspcions a guy just want to sleep with you, reject them immediatly and they'll be none the wizer as to why! Remember you're in control.
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Parthena
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posted on 12-22-2007 at 00:55 |
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Virgin confession
I agree with the previous poster. If you tell a guy you're dating that you're a virgin too soon, then even if he's a sleaze who doesn't intend to marry/stay with you, he may wish to stick around and meanwhile, he may try to act differently around you than his normal self, in order to make you feel safe/comfortable. But if he doesn't know you're a virgin, he will just be himself and if he is a sleazebag then you will see this side coming out immediately, or hopefully before you make any important decisions about closer intimacy.
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Andrew
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posted on 01-06-2008 at 22:51 |
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I'd say tell him right away
For me I'd only really go for virgin girls as I am a virgin myself.
If you think that guy is a righteous person with values, then he would appreciate your virginity.
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Andrew
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Nicolas94
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posted on 09-09-2008 at 20:46 |
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It depends on the relationship
If your kissing/making out with him its probally a good idea to tell him. If your just going out to lunch with him and havent been sexual in anyway(Like no french kissing or anythign more serious then that) then theres no need to tell him
the poster 2 posts above me said you have to "Make a guy fall in love with you"
that is BEYOND manipulative lol.. I cannot believe she even said that.
She didnt say "Hope he falls in love with you" she said MAKE.
I dont think that girl is suited to give you advice, anyone telling you to MAKE people do things is beyond egocentric.
Love is developed over time, not forced into existence.
honestly people like her make guys think all guys are manipulative.
heres my advice, if you like the guy your with, and get to a physical part of the relationship, if you decide you can trust him. Its okay to tell him
Dont tell him in an overbearing voice of the sky kind of way
Just softly tell him "im a virgin, because I want my first time to be special"
Your tone is KEY if you say it very harshly or sharply, its going to turn out badly
Just tell him gently, try not to seem commanding about it and if hes a respectable guy hell understand. The only thing is if your in a relationship with someone long enought o consider marrying them, you have to help out the guy every now and then, if you dont want to have sex a handjob every now and then wouldnt kill ya :P
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